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Help! My Job Is Ruining My Life.

Sound like anyone you know?

How many times have you kept silent while your boss verbally degraded you because you really needed the job and the money? This was done to me once in front of other co-workers. I than went home and vented to friends, some congratulated me for doing the mature thing by keeping my mouth shut and keeping my job. Some said I should just spend company time looking for a new job and others said I should have told the jerk off.

Even if you don't have a child or two at home that depend on your hard earned check, the dark clouds of irresponsibility hangs over your head telling you not to risk your job, no matter how badly you are being treated. You tell yourself, "I'm an adult and I need to put my morality and dignity aside and do what's best for myself and my family."


That way of thinking is a humiliating, degrading, spiritly destructive and is the absolutely worst way to exist; no one should live that way. I've known someone who allows a person to do this to them and their life is vacated of meaning. He is an empty shell and not even 35 yet.
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Furthermore, if you do have children, your children will learn from your example, so don't fool yourself into thinking you're doing them any medicalfavors. The only thing you're teaching them is that it's ok to be pushed around and bullied by the work force. Unless your hope for your children are to follow in your footsteps, don't bother telling them to fight for what they believe in or to stand up for themselves. All of it would be a contradiction to the example you show them every day by putting up with bad job environments, disrespectful employers and unfilled work satisfaction. Furthermore, America's addiction to consumer spending is making slaves out of all of us. Work hard, spend more than you earn, have a debt and die... Welcome to America!

Most of us (if not all of us) have experienced bad jobs.

I had a co-worker sexually harassed me and than physically threaten me when I refused him and the only thing the company did was suspend him for seven days. I had one boss hold a raise over my head as if I were a rat jumping for a piece of cheese. I worked 6 days a week and continuously working 70 + hour weeks coordinating a big trade show. The President constantly vetoed my booth suggestions and after the failure of the show, all of the trade booth participants voiced anger that the things I suggested would not present.

3 months of 70 + hours a week I could have spent with family and friends. All those missed hours I could have been at the beach, at the movies, at holiday parties and I never got the raise... No... I got fired! Reason? The CEO said because the show wasn't a success and because I was the coordinator they could no longer afford my position. The President didn't have the guts to admit it was her fault and I didn't say anything in my defense.

Do you want to talk about shame? Out of all the things I've done in my life, I feel the greatest shame for putting up with that BS!

How many years do we spend on this planet? 50? 60? Let's be optimistic and say some of us will live to be 80 years old. With 18 years as a minor, that leaves us 62 years as an adult. How many times have we heard the phrase "how time flies". How many years are you willing to spend doing a job that you hate? How many years of your life are you going to give to a company that recognizes you only as a number to produce a profit that you will never see?

Better yet, how many Christmas bonuses have you received? If you do receive them, does the value reflect the hard work you provided to them?

Remember, you have only approximately 62 years of your adult life to enjoy, and that is in prediction of the very best circumstances.
After being made the escape goat for the President, I became consumed with the idea that I would never again spend my time doing a job I hate. But the real question was, I have to earn a living, what do I want to do?

Learn to work for yourself. Treat your job position as if it is your own business. Ask yourself, does the employer deserve you and your skills and knowledge?

If you are self-disciplined and courageous, you can become financially independent, comfortable and enter a career where you will find career satisfaction. There is not one single person in the world who doesn't have the potential to learn. Working out of necessity makes a slave out of you (and your children if you have children). It doesn't have to be that way.

Step outside your personal comfort zones. I won't pretend that you won't be taking a risk, you are. However, this is your life and your spiritual happiness, you are worth it. It might be one of the hardest things you've ever done. You might be challenging your own beliefs as well as those around you. You may have some people tell you your crazy, to stick with what you know; "don't rock the boat".


I say turn the music up and rock that baby!

Here are five steps to get you started

  1. Be honest with yourself and what you want out of life
  2. Live Frugally
  3. Quit letting people talk you into things you don't want to do
  4. Don't stressing about what other people, your friends or family has and you don't.
  5. Choose a career you love, not a job you hate.
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